To all my wonderful friends & fans who have been private messaging me about the bullshit that has been circling around the internet. Thank you for all your love & support. If I could find a way to meet each and everyone of you in person, then I would & then there would be no doubt in anyone’s mind that Siggy Flicker is the REAL DEAL! There is nothing phony about me
except for a few body parts! That’s it! The truth is that since reunion Jacqueline and I have not spoken. There are certain bad bloggers out there that don’t take the time out to research their stories. They simply don’t care & will put out any bullshit story because for them, it’s all about “click baits” which makes money for them and not about telling the truth. There are some great bloggers out there who have been fair in their stories even when it doesn’t shed me in the best light. I would like to thank some of the great ones… The Real Mr. Housewife, thathousewivesguy, & AllAbout TRH, for always be fair & square. Let’s clear some things up……After reunion I was very hurt once again by Jacqueline! She once again stopped talking to me. I was once again receiving the silent treatment. The 1st time she did that was after Vermont. There was no reason for her to give me the silent treatment after Vermont. I had her back in Vermont & once again the proof is in the footage. I even left Vermont early! This time around when she didn’t speak to me after reunion, it was different for me. I was over it!!! I was not reaching out this time. I was exhausted from this friendship and felt that I was damned if I do & damned if I don’t! It’s that simple. Now all these bogus accusations are coming out. Please!!! I call BULLSHIT! I have done nothing wrong and I had Jacqueline’s back for 18 episodes & everyone has the footage to back this fact up. Usually in life, when you are done & speak the truth, the other side has two options. They are either going to apologize or they are going to come up with something not nice about you They are certainly not going to compliment you and say….”she’s a great person” or “she has great hair” instead they are going to rip you to shreds and say nasty negative things like in this case “phony” & “two faced”! I’m not surprised. As far as those false accusations of me playing both sides, I call BULLSHIT again! This season was about me getting to know these ladies for the first time & developing my own relationships with them including my favorite of all….Dolores!!! That friendship means the world to me. It’s so easy and low maintenance. I just love her. I also met Teresa for the 1st time at Rails during filming and we bonded from the moment we met. I adore her. From the very beginning I was not interested in taking sides. I don’t kiss anyone’s ass and I don’t care enough about their past issues to get involved. I judge my friends based on my own experiences. I have also witnessed plenty of people talking about Teresa before I even met her…I wonder why those people are being protected & all this venom is being taken out on me. I love all these women & never once did I do anything but lift them up. Once again the proof in the footage of the show & on any other show (Wendy Williams, Steve Harvey etc.) that I ever did! Anyone can google these interviews & it only proves and back up the facts ….I DID talk about Melissa before I had the chance to get to know her and I was wrong & I owned it on camera and off camera. We straightened it out. Melissa is a class act. She fights like a lady. We moved past it. That is what mature adults do. As far as Jacqueline, I wish nothing but the best for her. She is a wonderful mother & wife. We had some great times together over the past 2 years. I also thanked her 18,452 times for getting me on the show. I was a good friend but in the end I guess I couldn’t meet the expectations she had for me as a friend. I will always be grateful to all the fans for their love and support. It means so much to me. Lesson learned here……You can’t please everyone in life and just like they tell you when you are on an airplane that in case of an emergency put the oxygen mask on yourself 1st before you help others, I did just that and I stand behind that. I am not going to sacrifice my health or happiness for any friendship. My plea to all of you is…. don’t believe everything you read with certain bloggers! Be Leaders. Not Followers! Listen to your gut instincts. There is fake news out there. There are apps out there today that can create fake tweets, fake text messages & we all know about all the fake accounts that certain people create with 5 followers or less in order to spread hate & to bully others. It’s just not nice. At the end of the day, I try to avoid conflict and certain situations because I know that with some people, it isn’t going to make a difference. I don’t want to lose hours of my life that I will never get back. When you get to be a certain age, you lose your patience for drama. I’m a lover and not a fighter. I don’t like confrontation. Sue me. Hang me from a pole! I am all heart & soul & every single one of you witnessed that this season. THAT’S ALL FOLKS! I am now getting back to my family, friends & life. Peace to all. Happy Holidays. Siggy XO
I need you to listen and listen closely …
When people ask me why there are evil people in the world, the answer is simple … I believe God made all types of people so we can differentiate between the good and the bad; otherwise, how would we know the difference? Not everyone can be “good” and most of us really strive to be better people.
It’s what we’re faced with in life, but what can we do? We can educate ourselves, do our best to walk a straight line and listen to our gut instincts. For some, it’s so easy and for others it takes a bit longer, but what I want to teach you in this blog is how to RECOGNIZE a toxic person! Energy speaks to you. Have you ever been around someone who makes you feel uncomfortable? Perhaps you can’t believe what you are seeing or you hear them talk and what they are saying doesn’t sound right. Your gut tells you to run but you are too scared to move. You start to feel bad for them because life has been hard for them, you make up excuses for them and you pray that tomorrow morning they get up and are totally different. Well, my friends, this is the best advice I can give you: RUN, RUN, RUN, RUN, RUN for the door!!! Repeat after me: YOU CANNOT HELP A PERSON WHO DOESN’T WANT TO HELP THEMSELF. It is not your job. Some people are sneaky, manipulative, bitter, jealous, and can’t get out of their own way. It’s true. It’s a fact of life. There are people right now in your life that you are thinking about that fit this description. If they are family members, spend as little time with them as possible. If they’re not related to you, run for the hills. You don’t owe anyone anything. You are entitled to be happy, to have your own opinion, to be free, to be loved, to be wonderful and to have joy in your life! You are entitled to live your life YOUR WAY and not under some toxic spell! I beg you! Today is the day that you cut the rope and all ties with those who are toxic in your life! Siggy XO
Not everyone is going to understand my journey, and that’s fine. It’s not anyone else’s journey to make sense of – it’s MINE. I’ve had so many people asking me whose side I am on in this ongoing battle between Jacqueline and Teresa. The answer is simple: I’m on TEAM SIGGY! The purpose of life is to LIVE A LIFE OF PURPOSE and I do just that!
I am no one’s puppet. I take pride in the fact that I am a leader, not a follower! I have my own opinions and no one should get mad at me for those opinions. Although it would have been wonderful to see Jacqueline and Teresa put an end to their bickering, it just wasn’t meant to be. Anyone who has watched this show this season knows that I have gladly had Jacqueline’s back through every single episode. (For the record: she NEVER asked me to defend her. That was always MY choice.) I have thanked her over & over again, just recently on The Wendy Williams Show. Jacqueline was the one who told me that when I met Teresa that I would love her and she was right – I do! At the end of the day, it’s all about chemistry and energy. Certain people bring out the best in you and some can bring out the worst in you! Although both of these ladies are lovely on their own, the Jacqueline and Teresa era is officially OVER! After so much time, energy and effort spent, I’ve finally come to realize that these girls don’t belong together; the chemistry just doesn’t work. What it boils down to is neither one of them wants to be friends and they are perfectly happy without each other. I have too much going on in my life to spend another minute focusing on drama that has nothing to do with me. DONE and DONE! If you’re struggling in a relationship, and truly want to resolve your issues, always remember: YOU CAN’T BRING UP THE PAST IF YOU WANT A FUTURE – It’s that simple! Only when you leave the past behind you can you move forward. Siggy XO
Have you ever heard the saying “You get more bees with honey than you do with vinegar”? That’s exactly what comes to mind after watching this season’s RHONJ finale. I consider all of these ladies to be my friends, and I wanted nothing more than to see them all work through their differences. I am entitled to my opinions, and only want the best for all of them.
Have you ever had friends that were fighting? It’s not comfortable for anyone to be around them, and being in the middle is no fun at all! I don’t believe the blame belongs on one individual here; EVERYONE (Teresa, Jacqueline and Melissa) involved in this situation has a hand in the cookie jar. There are so many instances this season that could have gone so differently if everyone didn’t fly off the handle so quickly and took the time to calmly talk things through and listen to each other. These relationships aren’t moving forward because no one wants to take accountability for their actions. Regarding Jacqueline and Teresa’s relationship, I’ve always believed that Jacqueline was reacting in a way that stemmed from uncertainty and hurt. She never trusted that Teresa truly wanted to be her friend again and after the Vermont trip, those feelings just escalated. It’s important to understand that at the Vermont dinner, Jacqueline walked in to dinner thinking that Teresa had asked Robyn and Christina to leave the trip – she had no idea that Teresa was so angry. How I wish that Teresa had softened her approach towards Jacqueline within the first 3 minutes of her sitting down, and how I wish Melissa had just answered Jacqueline’s “Strippergate” question right away. I also wish that Jacqueline didn’t leave so she could have heard their points of view. It was all one big mess; Dolores and I did our best to give Jacqueline’s perspective in hopes of bringing everyone together. Neither Dolores nor I wanted to be in the middle of this war, so my only goal was to get these girls together for CLOSURE! I had faith that they could all sit down together and talk through their differences. I wasn’t expecting them to walk away as best friends; I just wanted them to walk away as ladies who could understand one another, act civilly toward each other, and MOVE FORWARD. I initially planned a luncheon at my house, and when Teresa asked me if I had insurance, I got scared and changed the location to Rails – and yes, I hired security! (All of us JERSEY girls are strong, opinionated women, and I wanted to make sure that nothing went flying in the heat of an argument!) I was beyond ecstatic when Dolores and Jacqueline handled everything so well … and then … BAM! I’m not quite sure what happened. I know that Jacqueline was still so hurt from the Vermont trip, but right from the start, her delivery was wrong. She immediately started to dictate who was to sit where and how this luncheon was going to go down. She asked Melissa to leave the room and the rest is history! When Jacqueline left, Dolores and I chased after her because we wanted to tell her that her delivery was off in hopes that she would come back inside and we could start all over again. I may be a relationship expert, but I am not a magician. I can’t pull a rabbit out of a hat, and I can’t make people behave in ways I wish they would. If I were a magician, I would have made Teresa’s attack on Jacqueline at dinner in Vermont disappear, I would have made Melissa answer Jacqueline’s “Strippergate” question right away, and I would have made Jacqueline approach the luncheon differently. In TRUE FRIENDSHIPS, it’s comforting to know you can AGREE TO DISAGREE! Having different opinions and being open (in a respectful way, of course) can be a beautiful thing! I will always be exactly who I am – I have nothing to hide and I’m going to be honest and upfront with you from the get-go because I WANT WHAT’S BEST FOR MY FRIENDS. How can you grow as a person if you aren’t willing to accept constructive criticism from those who care about you the most? At the end of the day, I find comfort in knowing that I truly tried my best. In situations like this, there’s only so much you can do. It’s clear to me now that I’m damned if I do / I’m damned if I don’t. I’d like to end this season finale’s blog on a positive note. Although my skills as a Relationship Expert weren’t as effective with my friends as I had hoped they’d be, I am so grateful for this experience during my first season as a “Real Housewife”. I’ve had some constructive criticism thrown at me from the people I love the most – my family. What did I do with it? I accepted it, reflected on it, and used it to make positive changes in myself that have only enriched my relationships with my parents and my children. And that, my friends, is how you do it. Life is good! See you at the reunion! Siggy XO
Have you ever heard the saying “You get more bees with honey than you do with vinegar”? That’s exactly what comes to mind after watching this season’s RHONJ finale. I consider all of these ladies to be my friends, and I wanted nothing more than to see them all work through their differences. I am entitled to my opinions, and only want the best for all of them.
Why do I care so much? 3 reasons:
1. I want to see my friends in a peaceful, happy place.
2. Relationships are my expertise; it drives me crazy to see people not getting along. If something is broken, I believe in giving it your all to fix it.
3. Have you ever had friends that were fighting? It’s not comfortable for anyone to be around them, especially their close friends!!! Can’t we all just get along???
I don’t believe the blame belongs on one individual here; EVERYONE (Teresa, Jacqueline and Melissa) involved in this situation has a hand in the cookie jar. There are so many instances this season that could have gone so differently if everyone didn’t fly off the handle so quickly and took the time to calmly talk things through and listen to each other. These relationships aren’t moving forward because no one wants to take accountability for their actions. Regarding Jacqueline and Teresa’s relationship, I’ve always believed that Jacqueline was reacting in a way that stemmed from uncertainty and hurt. She never trusted that Teresa truly wanted to be her friend again and after the Vermont trip, those feelings just escalated. It’s important to understand that at the Vermont dinner, Jacqueline walked in thinking that Teresa had asked Robyn and Christina to leave the trip – she had no idea that Teresa was so angry. How I wish that Teresa didn’t attack Jacqueline within the first 3 minutes of her sitting down, and how I wish Melissa had just answered Jacqueline’s “Strippergate” question right away! Neither Dolores nor I wanted to be in the middle of this war, so my only goal was to get these girls together for CLOSURE! I had faith that they could all sit down together and talk through their differences. I wasn’t expecting them to walk away as best friends; I just wanted them to walk away as ladies who could understand one another, act civilly toward each other, and MOVE FORWARD. I initially planned a luncheon at my house, and when Teresa asked me if I had insurance, I got scared and changed the location to Rails – and yes, I hired security! (All of us JERSEY girls are strong, opinionated women, and I wanted to make sure that nothing went flying in the heat of an argument!) I was beyond ecstatic when Dolores and Jacqueline handled everything so well … and then … BAM! I’m not quite sure what happened, but right from the start, Jacqueline’s delivery was wrong. She immediately started to dictate who was to sit where and how this luncheon was going to go down. She asked Melissa to leave the room and the rest is history! When Jacqueline left, Dolores and I chased after her because we wanted to tell her that her delivery was off in hopes that she would come back inside and we could start all over again. Melissa was even open to hearing what Jacqueline had to say, so why not try to make it right? I may be a relationship expert, but I am not a magician. I can’t pull a rabbit out of a hat, and I can’t make people behave in ways I wish they would. If I were a magician, I would have made Teresa’s attack on Jacqueline at dinner in Vermont disappear, I would have made Melissa answer Jacqueline’s “Strippergate” question right away, and I would have made Jacqueline approach the luncheon differently. In TRUE FRIENDSHIPS, it’s comforting to know you can AGREE TO DISAGREE! Having different opinions and being open (in a respectful way, of course) can be a beautiful thing! I will always be exactly who I am – I have nothing to hide and I’m going to be honest and upfront with you from the get-go because I WANT WHAT’S BEST FOR MY FRIENDS. How can you grow as a person if you aren’t willing to accept constructive criticism from those who care about you the most? At the end of the day, I find comfort in knowing that I truly tried my best. In situations like this, there’s only so much you can do. It’s clear to me now that I’m damned if I do / I’m damned if I don’t. I’d like to end this season finale’s blog on a positive note. Although my skills as a Relationship Expert weren’t as effective with my friends as I had hoped they’d be, I am so grateful for this experience during my first season as a “Real Housewife”. I’ve had some constructive criticism thrown at me from the people I love the most – my family. What did I do with it? I accepted it, reflected on it, and used it to make positive changes in myself that have only enriched my relationships with my parents and my children. And that, my friends, is how you do it. Life is good! See you at the reunion! Siggy XO
This episode of the RHONJ for me was all about women empowering each other!!! Nothing drives me crazier than when women feel like they need to compete with other women. Listen to me: STRONG WOMEN don’t tear each other down – they BUILD EACH OTHER UP!!!! I’m so happy to support the ladies in my life that I hold dear to my heart – their happiness brings me
happiness. It’s no secret how much I love my girlfriend, Dolores! I’ve wanted nothing more than to see her moving forward – happily – with her life. It was my mission to build up her self-esteem – that stunning, wonderful woman needed to know her worth!!!!!! Now that she feels good about herself, it was also important for her to feel good in her surroundings. Who doesn’t love a good home renovation????? A little known fact about me: for 15 years – in addition to being a Relationship Expert – I was a Selections Coordinator (A.K.A Decorator) for one of the biggest builders in Boca Raton, Florida. When people purchased a home, I worked closely with them to pick out all of the details in their new construction. I love helping people feel good, whether it’s in their own skin or in their environment! Celebrating the completion of this renovation was so important to Dolores, and I loved watching her in her element that night. Not only was she sharing her joy with everyone she loves, Dolores was announcing to everyone that night that she’s back and BETTER THAN EVER! Now that she’s put herself up on the pedestal that she deserves to be on, she’s set the tone for how she needs to be treated in current and future relationships. In fact, I’m happy to report that she’s successfully completed my boot camp – after a long “dating detox”, I’ve set her up with a wonderful man – and the relationship is going beautifully!!!! GO, DOLORES! Since Dolores feels so good about herself, she wanted to help other women feel great, too. It was my pleasure to play a part in her gym’s event, which aimed to empower women. I believe strongly that it’s so important to find what you truly love and share that joy with others, just like Teresa is sharing her love of yoga by becoming a yoga instructor. My Mother’s joy is very simple: her family. I will never take the bonding moments I’ve shared with her this season for granted. I’ve been sad around her in the past because I always felt like she never put enough energy into herself; it upset me to think that she must not have been happy. I understand now that what really, truly makes her happy is her family, and that’s a beautiful thing! However, I’m not giving up on getting my Mother to enjoy the finer things in life a little more. She is the most selfless, giving woman – it brought me so much joy to pamper her a little bit. I’m forever grateful that she always believed in me and made me the woman that I am today. I can only hope that my children have as much respect for me as I have for my Mom. What brings you joy? I urge you to find your happiness and share the sh*t out of it!!! Siggy XO
There are two types of women in this world: women who purchase something fabulous and keep the details to themselves, and women who want to tell you exactly where they bought it and for how much. I am unapologetically that girl who will lead you to the goods. I wrote a book (Write Your Own Fairy Tale) and it’s true … I want you to read it. Why? Because I practice what
I preach and I know it works. I could just keep this information to myself, but seeing other people happy makes me feel fulfilled. I believe that positive energy is contagious and I intend to keep spreading joy wherever I go. If you know your worth and surround yourself with good, genuine people that truly believe in you, there’s absolutely nothing you can’t accomplish. YOU CAN LIVE THE LIFE YOU WANT! Shhh … I’ll let you in on a little secret! I’m excited to say that I set my dear Dolores up with a wonderful man and the relationship is going fabulously! After a little “Dating Detox” and “Siggy Boot Camp,” my girl was ready to take the plunge. She now knows her worth and feels incredible. If you don’t hold yourself up high on a pedestal, no one else will!!! GO, DOLORES!!!!! I’m so passionate about this message, and spreading it is one of several reasons why I agreed to join the cast of the RHONJ this season. The other reasons: I wanted to bring light to a show that just kept getting darker and darker, to use my expertise to attempt to help everyone mend their broken relationships, and I also wanted to show the rest of the world that New Jersey is CLASSY! For years, loyal RHONJ viewers have been witness to never-ending drama and fighting. There’s been table flipping, name-calling, hair pulling, and threats made. I’m not here to take sides or partake in anyone else’s drama that has nothing to do with me. However, I will do whatever I can to help fix it (if my advice is welcome, of course). One of the reasons I’ve been so successful as a relationship expert is that I am an empathizer – I can see where each of these individuals is coming from, and what’s keeping them from uniting. Although their personal situations are all unique, the bottom line with each and every one of them is: FAMILY ALWAYS COMES FIRST. I respect this so much, and I consider myself beyond lucky to call all of these women my friends. I’ve made it clear with each of them where I stand in all of this, and they have all graciously accepted and honor my wishes. Although I may not go out looking for drama, I do occasionally have drama that pops into my life. I CHOOSE TO DIFFUSE it instead of entertain it. If Felicia continues to knock at my door, I’ll gladly let her in … and good luck finding her body parts! I may be kind and classy at heart, but if you want to bring me the B.S., the Jersey Girl in me will NOT tolerate it. There’s no room for negativity in my life – and there shouldn’t be in yours either. I will not change for anyone or anything. I love being a leader and I’m proud of what I bring to the table. I receive countless emails everyday – the majority of them are people thanking me for the advice I have to offer and for the positivity and light-heartedness I’ve brought to the show. I’m so glad that Dolores and I have been able to bring a real friendship, real emotions and real opinions to the RHONJ. I hope that you can appreciate that, too. Siggy XO
Some viewers have felt for me – others have questioned my sanity – either way, there’s no denying I’ve cried enough tears so far during this season of the RHONJ to form a Flicker River. You may have noticed I’m an emotional person, but do you know why I’m so emotional? I’m ready now to fill you in. I’ve always had issues with my fibroids, but two years ago, they were inflamed
enough to require surgery. During the surgery, my doctor found a pre-cancerous tumor on my other ovary. Who knew inflamed fibroids could be such a blessing?! I underwent a full hysterectomy and my body went into complete shock; my hormones were – and occasionally continue to be – out of whack. My doctor recommended that I do hormone replacement therapy to counter the effects of my uterus being removed, but after much research, I decided against it because of the increased breast cancer risk associated with it. I also opted to have my breast implants removed because I couldn’t stand the thought of anything foreign in my body anymore. I embrace my hot flashes and my highs and lows – I’m alive and healthy, and that’s all that matters to me! Now more than ever, I’m able to focus on what I feel is truly important in life. I’ve never been one to partake in drama, and after going through something like this, I know all too well that you don’t know what each day brings; life is too short and too precious, and there are MUCH MORE IMPORTANT THINGS IN LIFE THAN PETTY BULLSHIT. I’m so lucky that my girlfriends have accepted me for who I am – an empathetic, compassionate, loyal friend to all of my loved ones. I’m also so grateful that they respect my wishes – I don’t want to be in the middle of any more drama. The ladies and I have a pact – Teresa and Melissa won’t talk about Jacqueline in my presence, and Jacqueline won’t talk about Teresa or Melissa around me. I respect them and love them ALL too much to tolerate anything being said about any of them. Thank you, Chris, for understanding that I’m about mending, not breaking people. What I do wish is that everyone on the show would sit down together and really listen to each other, the way Melissa and I did over coffee. You get so much further with people when you sit down with them, really listen to what they have to say, and you’re honest with them. I saw Melissa in a whole new light after our conversation, and I’m so glad that we each took the time to meet that day. You see, I’ve always been the way I am, but after my health scare, I like to think of myself as a new and improved Siggy – “Siggy 2.0”! Life is too fragile not to be true to you, and I’m not changing ONE BIT for anyone or any television show. Embrace who you are and be thankful for every day!!! Siggy XO
Holy sh**, my head is still spinning from that trip! Just when you thought everything was calm in Jersey, we cross a couple state borders and … BAM!
First of all, let me make it clear that my idea of a “vacation” doesn’t involve snow or even an ounce of drama, so aside from a few special moments in beautiful Vermont, this whole experience pretty much falls under the umbrella of “trip from HELL” for me.
I wasn’t initially keen on a getaway that didn’t involve sunshine, palm trees and cocktails on the beach, but after some convincing, I was actually looking forward to this getaway with my friends. Our trip to Crystal Springs (just the 5 of us) was so enjoyable, I really thought this would be a nice way for us all to bond some more and a great excuse for Teresa to get some quality friend / family time in before Joe leaves. What a shame that it had to go the way that it did. I felt so uncomfortable on this trip and I just wanted to protect my friends from getting hurt and / or into trouble … and then get the hell back to Jersey. For crying out loud, we are all adults; high school was over YEARS ago. I don’t want to partake in any gossip or B.S. – I just want to have a good time with my friends. I work so hard everyday to make sure my kids are respectful and behave – I really have no tolerance for adults who act this way. I was shocked. At this point of my RHONJ journey, I’d like to remind everyone that I don’t have a magic wand. I can’t force people to behave the way I think they should behave. In all my years as a relationship expert, I’ve only been able to find success with parties who are willing and able to participate and really want to do everything they can in their power to make it work. I love providing people with the tips and tools to revive their relationships, but again, I am not a magician; it ALWAYS takes two to tango. I’m starting to feel like I’m in the “swimming pool” waiting for people to join me. However, some want to stay where it’s shallow and others keep diving into the deep end – if they truly want to make it work, they’re going to have to swim the distance and meet in the middle. If not, they can keep treading water, but they’re going nowhere, and it’s exhausting. Speaking of swimming pools … time to book a vacation where there’s a nice quiet one with no chance of a category 5 hurricane … and hand me a GIANT margarita!!!! Siggy XO
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again … TIMING IS EVERYTHING!!! This applies to a lot of the relationship turmoil that’s happening during this season of the RHONJ. I’m so happy to offer my relationship expertise to anyone who’s willing to listen, but unfortunately, I’m not a magician! Ideally, I’d love to see everyone back together as one big happy family.
It’s heartbreaking to see relationships not getting back to where and what they used to be, but it’s important to keep in mind that EVERYONE has a lot going on in their own lives that’s more important to them at the moment; it’s just not a priority for some to mend broken relationships, and that’s ok. Kathy and Jacqueline have a lot going on with their own children and Teresa is trying to get in as much family time as possible in the short time between her arrival home and Joe’s departure. (Can you imagine the stress?) One person can handle only so much emotionally. The timing just isn’t right to work things out. There is a big difference between making up with a brother and making up with a cousin. I’m sure Teresa and Joe’s parents had a lot to do with bringing them back together – they undoubtedly encouraged them to get along – and I’m sure the children know how much it meant to their parents that they works things out. If the cousins’ parents aren’t on board with them mending their relationship, it makes it a lot harder for the kids to reconcile. Richie’s comment certainly didn’t help the situation at all, but knowing Richie, he didn’t intend to cause any harm. Sometimes we say things in the heat of the moment that we don’t mean. Someone who was open to my advice and took it: Melissa! Melissa and Joe have such a strong marriage; I love watching them interact with each other. There is a mutual respect there and a true bond. At the end of the day, they just want to make each other happy. I’m so glad Melissa took my advice and that it’s working for them. Some relationships are easy to fix, some take a little time, some may be past the point of repairing. It all comes down to: is it worth it to you at the moment to put in the effort? Down the road, when and if the timing is just right, I hope that this entire cast can get along again. Although it doesn’t look like it’s going to be anytime soon, I’m not counting any of these relationships out yet … and neither should you. Siggy XO
I finally had a chance to sit down with Andy Cohen on Watch What Happens Live, and I had the BEST time! I also really enjoyed chatting with Caroline Manzo; she’s my kind of woman – she’s no-B.S. and she’s not afraid to call things as she sees them. I loved that we didn’t necessarily agree on everything we talked about, but we respected each other’s opinions.
One thing we absolutely can agree on – we’re both great moms! I was given the opportunity to join the cast of the RHONJ because I am loud and I am opinionated; I also happen to be a Relationship Expert who isn’t afraid to admit that my own relationships can use a little tweaking here and there. (NO ONE IS PERFECT. NO RELATIONSHIP IS PERFECT. Anyone who says theirs is, is full of sh*t.) It was always my intention to use my expertise to bring unity to this passionate group of people that, despite all of their differences, believes in the power of FAMILY as much as I do. I really hope that all of the struggling relationships on the show can be mended; it’s so sad to watch families and long-lasting friendships fall apart. It’s so important to consider that a lot of these issues have been present for a long time (as the viewers have seen) and EVERYONE involved has a lot of extra stressful things going on in their lives; the timing may just not be right. I hope they can all find it in their hearts to eventually forgive each other; I wouldn’t count any of these relationships out just yet. People evolve and want different things out of life, and that’s OK! Don’t give up on your fairytale if things change a little bit – embrace the new chapter that’s being written! If you want your relationship to work, don’t be afraid of fine-tuning here and there. Even a Relationship Expert’s relationships aren’t always ideal! If you’ve been watching, you know that I’ve really been struggling with my changing relationship with my son, Joshua. He’s growing up so quickly right before my eyes; it hurts my heart to think that he doesn’t need me so much anymore. I love being a Mom to my children more than anything in the whole world. I know that I need to find balance and boundaries for Joshua’s sake. This is OUR new chapter – my new normal – and it’s the right time for me to finally embrace it. Siggy XO
There’s no denying that what you see is what you get with Siggy Flicker. During the Six Day War, my mother went into labor with me in a BOMB SHELTER in Israel. From the very beginning of my life, everything I do, I do in a BIG way! Big mouth. Big dreams. Big heart. There’s nothing more important to me than the positive relationships in my life – I love relationships so much,
I made them my living!!! My career as a Relationship Expert brings me so much joy and keeps me constantly busy. All relationships take work and, just like a car, they need maintenance. Even though we are deeply in love, Michael and I benefit from some fine-tuning here and there, too. Speaking of Michael – although quick, he finally made his first RHONJ appearance!!! We had so much fun celebrating Teresa and her new book in NYC. I wish her continued success in everything she does in life! May Teresa always know her worth – may you ALL always know how valuable you are!!! I will do anything to support my family and my friends, especially my best girlfriend for life, Dolores. Through thick and thin, I’ll always be by her side. When Dolores hurts, I hurt. My heart absolutely broke for her when she lost her Boo. I wish I could’ve done more to ease her pain, but I was content just to snuggle up in bed with her and let her know I’m always there for her. Whether it’s mourning the lost of her beloved Boo, or helping her figure out her finances, I’m there to help her. Dolores is well on her way to being independent of any man, and getting her bills in order was a crucial part of the process. Independence for Dolores is great … it’s my children’s independence that I’m clearly having a rough time dealing with. It’s funny how I’ve raised my kids to be successful on their own, and now that it’s really starting to happen, it’s my worst nightmare come true!!! Josh getting his license has been a very difficult pill for me to swallow. My kids have been my world since they came into my life. I soak up every minute with them that I possibly can. I love driving Josh and Sophie wherever they need to go because it’s quality time we spend together and a great opportunity for me to find out what’s going on in their lives. What else can I say? I’m a Jewish Mother – I can’t help being all over my kids! It’s so important to surround yourself with people who want the best for you, and who you can root for in return. Getting rid of the toxic people in your life is crucial if you want to be able to reach your fullest potential. Life is too short to put up with anyone’s B.S. Think BIG … and watch out for trashcans!!! That thing came out of nowhere. 😉 Siggy XO
Did this week’s episode of the RHONJ go as you thought it would? I have to admit that I was a little nervous myself about what to expect during our little getaway to Crystal Springs. Jacqueline and I calmed each other’s nerves by acting like a bunch of teenagers during our drive. We snacked on Cracker Jacks (did you like Jacqueline’s teeth?) and we had a Bazooka Bubble Gum contest
to see how much gum we could shove in our mouths. The beginning of our spa getaway started out with a little tension between Teresa and Jacqueline, but thankfully it ended up being an incredible bonding experience for all of us. During this quick trip, I really got to know all of the girls better, and for the first time I got to see Teresa’s endearing side. It was lovely to see Teresa and Jacqueline enjoy each other’s company and not bring up the past. How can you move forward if you keep bringing up what’s already happened? It’s not easy to break through walls that others put up, especially when both sides are going through unimaginably tough times. One thing the five of us have in common is that we’ve all made it through difficult times; we are all SURVIVORS. We have all pulled through, and will continue to pull through whatever life throws at us. Michael and I weren’t always financially comfortable – in fact, we were the complete opposite when I first met him and we fell in love. I adore my husband for who he is, what he stands for, and the fact that he loves me for ME – all the rest that has followed has been icing on the cake for us. The decision to divorce Mark was a tremendous risk that I was willing to take to find my own happiness. The beginning wasn’t easy, and I am beyond thankful that I had the support of my parents to help me through. My Mom and Dad gave up their home to move in with the kids and me so we could maintain as much normalcy as possible. Because of them, I was able to head back to work as a Matchmaker in Manhattan, doing what I always loved to do. During these years, I ran the tri-state area’s Model Quality Introductions – the largest matchmaking company in the country. I know my ticket into Heaven is going to be the fact that I’ve brought thousands of people together and am responsible for the births of hundreds of babies! I’ve also written a book, Write Your Own Fairy Tale, where I share some of my greatest relationship advice. You see, by giving up my lifestyle and everything I was comfortable with, I found true happiness — and I’ve helped so many others find their happiness as well. I’m proof that if you’re willing to take risks in life, beautiful things can happen! My experiences are my expertise!!! It was my mission in joining the cast of the RHONJ to use my skills to bring unity back to the show. However, it’s important to remember that you can lead a horse to water, but if it’s not thirsty, it’s not going to take that drink. Siggy XO
Michael and I just returned from dropping his daughter, Olivia, off at college. We got her all set up for her freshman year of college, and I must say, it felt so good to feel needed and do what I do best: be a Mom. As you can tell from recent episodes, I’m really having a hard time adjusting to my kids growing up and not needing me as much anymore. This year was the first year I didn’t go back-to-school shopping with Joshua; he wanted to go with his friends. Ugh! I had to turn around when he told me
so he didn’t see the tears in my eyes. Joshua is entering his senior year of high school, and I do understand that he’s at an age now where he wants to be independent; that’s really one of my goals in raising my children, but it still stings when they don’t want to hang around me as much. Not only do I do my best to raise independent children, I also want nothing more than for them to be kind, appreciative, respectful and accepting of all people and religions. In this week’s episode I mentioned that after my divorce, I let a lot of my family’s traditions slide, and put them on the backburner after meeting Michael. Although Michael is half-Jewish, we’ve really concentrated on his Italian heritage. Sadly, Michael lost both of his parents – his Mom to cancer when he was 16, and his hero, his Father, to Lou Gehrig’s Disease 9 years ago this month. I’ve worked with Michael to keep his family’s traditions going, especially the ones he holds dearest to his heart: Christmas, cooking and Sunday pasta dinner. Michael makes the BEST lasagna and takes pleasure in making 65 meatballs for 7 people! I’ve realized lately that I’ve been so busy making sure that Michael’s traditions were kept alive, I’ve let some of my family’s traditions slide. As everyone gets older, the time we all spend together is decreasing and I figured there’s no better way to make the family closer again than by bringing back some of our family traditions. Kiddush is a great place to start! Putting the phones down for a couple hours was tough at first for all, but so worth it. Family traditions are always great to bring back, but some things are better left in the past and shouldn’t be brought up ever again. Do you know what I’m referring to? That’s right – the ever-present feud between Jacqueline and Teresa. I love them both dearly and want nothing more than for the two of them to get back to the friendship they once had. However, just like with all relationships, if you harp on the past, you’ll never be able to move forward. Let it go! Siggy XO
Missing Italy, but it feels so good to be back in Jersey! Michael and I are settled back into our daily lives, feeling refreshed and renewed, and my Sophie came home from camp this weekend – despite the crazy heat and humidity we’ve been experiencing in the Garden State, LIFE IS GOOD! This week’s episode of RHONJ was an emotional one for me to watch. Not only did I cry watching my interaction with my children, it was difficult for me to see my puffy face on TV – OMG, I looked like
the elephant man!!! It took a while for the swelling to go down after my facelift, and I’m thankful that’s all over with. Now, let’s move on to more important things … Back in Jersey. I think that my kids and I made a huge breakthrough during our trip to the diner. I’ve been really doing my best to tone down the talking and listen more to what Josh and Sophie have to say. However, there certainly won’t be any caving on my end when it comes to my parenting beliefs and doling out some tough love, when necessary. Even though my ex-husband, Mark, and I get along very well (in case you didn’t already know, he was the Best Man in my wedding to Michael), being divorced parents isn’t easy. I’m sure many single moms can relate to the fact that, since the kids spend the majority of their time in my home, I find myself being the main disciplinarian and the one who gets to do most of the parental “dirty work”. Mark wants to enjoy the time he has with them, so there aren’t chores and many rules at his home, which I honestly can’t blame him for. Because of this, I find myself often being the “bad guy”. If that’s the way it has to be for now, so be it. Here’s hoping one day Josh and Sophie will understand where I’m coming from and appreciate everything that I’ve done for them. When my children are parents one day, l have confidence that that they’ll understand why I’ve taken phones away and prohibited them from doing certain things they think are “cool” at this age. To me, a good education is the most important thing; hanging out with your friends and knowing what they’re doing every second of each day is NOT going to get them into a good college. I want my children to be independent and not rely on anyone else for money or security; making schoolwork a priority is the key to making this happen. Being a parent is finding the fine line between letting our kids figure things out for themselves, but also not wanting them to make the same “mistakes” we’ve made along the way. I’m still learning; we’re always learning. Here’s to continual self-improvement and being the best we can be – Siggy XO
Michael and I are still enjoying our delayed honeymoon in Italy and I’m in heaven! Is there a Real Housewives of Italy? If so, SIGN ME UP! I’m never coming home. Just teasing — of course I’m coming home to Jersey!!! Although Italy is PURE BLISS, I miss my kids way too much. Joshua and Sophie are my WORLD. No matter what’s going on in my life, my kids will always trump everything else. I love them so much; I’m OBSESSED with them.
Michael and I are so fortunate to be able to provide our kids with amazing opportunities, but we both refuse to raise spoiled, entitled children. We’ve worked so hard for everything we have, and we want them to know how important it is that they always do the same. I expect nothing less than hard-working, respectful kids who have their priorities in the right order. As you saw on this week’s episode, I’m on top of my kids. Whether I’m in bed or filming for Wendy Williams, I always know where my kids are and who they’re with. Being a parent is quite a struggle nowadays, don’t you think? In our town, there’s a sign that reads: Those who host lose the most. I don’t take this lightly. This is why I find my kids – despite creating an amazing spot for them and their friends to hang out —- don’t want to be at my house all the time. (Come on! Who doesn’t want to hang out with “The Sig”????) I don’t like sneaky – I’m an open and honest person with everyone I know and meet. Which leads me to my conversation with Teresa when we went rock climbing. Can you believe I asked her that? I CAN! That’s how I roll, take it or leave it. I believe in open, honest relationships – what better way to start a relationship than with an open and honest question? Teresa is a very intelligent and intuitive woman; she knew that I meant no harm asking her that question. I hope all of my girlfriends know that they can come to me anytime with anything they need – whether it’s a relationship related issue or not. I hope you’ve enjoyed getting to know me so far. As you can see, I’m a little bit over the top — The SIG only goes BIG. Arivarderci! See you back in New Jersey! The Sig XO
Michael and I are FINALLY enjoying a honeymoon after four years of marriage! I couldn’t think of a better place to take a break from all of the craziness and celebrate “us”! We have so much to reflect on and be grateful for. Sitting here in Italy, thinking back to our lives four years ago, I never would have imagined we would be where we are today. Michael and I were both entering into our second marriage (which we could barely afford to pay for at the time – we used a Gilt City coupon to make it happen)
and now here we are — blessed beyond our wildest dreams! We are proof that if you believe in and value yourself, you believe in the power of love, and you WORK HARD, anything is possible. Without a doubt, writing a book was an amazing accomplishment (if you haven’t read Write Your Own Fairytale yet, please order it! It’s a labor of love that will CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE), and being a part of RHONJ is an UNBELIEVABLE experience. But more than anything, our tight-knit, supportive FAMILY is our greatest achievement yet. The Flicker / Campanella clan is unique and unbreakable! I’m proud to say that my ex-husband, Mark, and I always put our children first; we hang out together, vacation together — he was even the Best Man in my wedding to Michael. I can’t put into words how much I appreciate him for the greatest gifts I have ever been given; our daughter, Sophie, and our son, Joshua. I hope that I can bring my passion for unifying people and my love of life and laughter to this season of The Real Housewives of New Jersey; this was my main goal in joining the cast. As a viewer, I felt that the show had become so negative and dark – “The Sig” isn’t here to bring drama or to compete with anyone. I’m here to bring some more fun to the show and bring everyone together again, baby! I hope I can give you all some good laughs along the way, while changing into my UGG slippers and loving on “my” Dolores. The RHONJ wouldn’t be where it is today if it wasn’t for the OG’s. I really admire their strength and their unconditional love for their families – traits that have been passed down to all of us, whether you’re Italian or a Jew like me. 😉 Which reminds me … I’m on my honeymoon in Italy! See you next week. Arrivederci! – “The Sig” XO