I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again … TIMING IS EVERYTHING!!! This applies to a lot of the relationship turmoil that’s happening during this season of the RHONJ. I’m so happy to offer my relationship expertise to anyone who’s willing to listen, but unfortunately, I’m not a magician! Ideally, I’d love to see everyone back together as one big happy family.
It’s heartbreaking to see relationships not getting back to where and what they used to be, but it’s important to keep in mind that EVERYONE has a lot going on in their own lives that’s more important to them at the moment; it’s just not a priority for some to mend broken relationships, and that’s ok. Kathy and Jacqueline have a lot going on with their own children and Teresa is trying to get in as much family time as possible in the short time between her arrival home and Joe’s departure. (Can you imagine the stress?) One person can handle only so much emotionally. The timing just isn’t right to work things out. There is a big difference between making up with a brother and making up with a cousin. I’m sure Teresa and Joe’s parents had a lot to do with bringing them back together – they undoubtedly encouraged them to get along – and I’m sure the children know how much it meant to their parents that they works things out. If the cousins’ parents aren’t on board with them mending their relationship, it makes it a lot harder for the kids to reconcile. Richie’s comment certainly didn’t help the situation at all, but knowing Richie, he didn’t intend to cause any harm. Sometimes we say things in the heat of the moment that we don’t mean. Someone who was open to my advice and took it: Melissa! Melissa and Joe have such a strong marriage; I love watching them interact with each other. There is a mutual respect there and a true bond. At the end of the day, they just want to make each other happy. I’m so glad Melissa took my advice and that it’s working for them. Some relationships are easy to fix, some take a little time, some may be past the point of repairing. It all comes down to: is it worth it to you at the moment to put in the effort? Down the road, when and if the timing is just right, I hope that this entire cast can get along again. Although it doesn’t look like it’s going to be anytime soon, I’m not counting any of these relationships out yet … and neither should you. Siggy XO